Why Are We So Burnt Out?
The Hidden Pressure Behind the Christian Supermom Lie
You're not just tired. You're carrying too much — and God never asked you to.
Let me guess:
You love your family.
You serve at church.
You’re always “just fine.”
Your planner is full. Your dishes are never done.
And every night, you lie awake wondering why you feel like you’re failing at all of it.
Can we just say it out loud?
You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. You’re not ungrateful.
You’re exhausted.
And it’s not because you’re doing something wrong. It might be because you’re trying to do everything right.
The Christian Supermom Lie
Somewhere along the way, we got fed this subtle but dangerous lie:
A “godly woman” keeps the house spotless, the kids thriving, the meals hot, the marriage strong, her body fit, her emotions in check, and her faith on fire—at all times.
Oh, and she better look cute doing it.
It sounds ridiculous when you say it out loud. But so many of us are living like it’s gospel truth. We’ve confused faithfulness with perfection. Service with self-neglect. Strength with silence.
We don’t want to let anyone down—so we don’t let ourselves rest.
But here's the truth: God never called you to be Supermom. He called you to be surrendered.
This Isn’t Just Fatigue—It’s a Spiritual Crisis
You’re not just tired. You’re overwhelmed, overstimulated, and over-functioning in the name of faith, family, and being “a good Christian woman.”
You’re carrying burdens God never asked you to. And it’s not noble. It’s not holy. It’s heavy.
You say yes when you should say no.
You stay up late making everything Pinterest-perfect.
You cry in the car before small group.
You serve everyone but feel invisible.
You pray but feel numb.
Burnout is what happens when we try to earn love instead of receiving it.
And Christian culture, bless it, can sometimes make this worse. We praise the women who do the most, sacrifice the most, pour out the most—without asking if anyone’s pouring into her.
God Doesn’t Need You to Do Everything
Repeat that. Out loud if you have to.
God does not need you to do it all.
In fact, He’s often the one whispering, “You can stop now. You’ve done enough.”
You know who isn’t telling you to slow down? Guilt. Comparison. Fear. Instagram. Maybe even your church. But Jesus? He says, “Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28)Not hustle.
Not spiritual multitasking.
Not crushing expectations in His name.
Rest.
If You’re Always Pouring Out, Who’s Filling You?
We say we want to serve like Jesus. But even Jesus stepped away from the crowds to pray. Even He slept through storms and withdrew when people demanded more.
You don’t have to earn your worth through constant doing. You’re allowed to be a human being—not a human spreadsheet.
So let’s get practical. Ask yourself:
What’s draining me right now that God never asked me to carry?
Am I saying yes to please others or to obey God?
Do I trust that God loves me even when I do nothing impressive?
Because here’s the kicker: sometimes the holiest thing you can do is take a nap and turn your phone off.
When the Church Praises Burnout
If you’ve ever been praised for being “such a servant” while secretly falling apart—this is for you.
Our faith communities mean well. But we need to stop applauding overfunctioning and start normalizing rest, boundaries, therapy, and honest conversations.
God doesn’t want your fake smile. He wants your full heart. And if that heart is anxious, empty, or bitter—He can handle it. He wants to heal it. But you’ve got to stop performing long enough to let Him in.
So… What Now?
No big action plan. No “5 Steps to Perfect Peace.” Just this:
Breathe.
Name what’s heavy.
Bring it to God.
Say no to what He never told you to carry.
And rest like your soul depends on it.
Because it does.
You’re Not Failing. You’re Just Fried.
You are not weak for being tired.
You are not faithless for feeling overwhelmed.
You are not less holy because you need help.
You are a human being, not a heavenly robot.
And the God who made you knows your limits—even when you ignore them.
So let the laundry sit. Let the group chat wait. Let someone else bring the cupcakes.
You do not need to be the hero of your story. Jesus already is.
Want to Take a Real Break?
Let’s talk: Have you ever felt like being a “good Christian woman” meant losing yourself? What are you unlearning about burnout, boundaries, and God’s love?